Grow from Failures

Must all of us have failed once in our lives? Have you ever discouraged when you failed to do something yet? Have you felt you are useless? Perhaps, you have made a lot of questions about yourself that are popped up in your mind. But whether you are brave enough to face your failure and overcome it. Failure is not a good reason to give up. Are you that person?

Are you a perfectionist? Can't accept your failure once in a lifetime

You will be lucky if you have never encountered any failure in your life. Everything went smoothly. People look at you with their admiration and belief in you. Sometimes will those beliefs be a double-edged sword for you. You will feel proud every time when you successfully do anything. Everyone is happy for you. On the other hand, you had a failure in your life with the slightest mistake, it feels like the whole sky is collapsing in front of you at some points. You are afraid to face the reality and your beloved ones, even you blame yourself for that failure. 

I used to feel like that. You could say I'm a perfectionist. But life is not like a dream. Nothing in this world is perfect. You yourself, too, cannot be successful without failure, no matter how big or small it is. It is an opportunity for you to practice and learn from it so that you can bounce back from that failure. Let yourself be ready to face failure. And no matter what happens, believing that you will still find a way to solve and conquer it.

No matter how bad it is, don't give up easily after failures

Overcome the fear of failure - embrace it, learn from it and enjoy it though. Don't give up easily after any failure. You will be stronger, wiser and better-prepared than you were before. Think that the first failure is a starting point for feeling more confident and getting ready to face other failures in the future. But don't let that make you think it's okay to fail as many times as possible. Whatever you do, you should have a clear goal, which is a short-term or long-term goal. Taking your time to do research and make a specific plan to achieve your goal and minimize failure in the implementation phase. 

Three ways to grow from failure

Take it as a learning experience

Failure is inevitable. If you are in a fear of failure when doing anything, you will never achieve success. Your success has been hindered by your anxiety. So relax yourself, simplify your failure and turn it into valuable lessons to help you grow and be braver. You can treat failure as just your once-in-a-lifetime practice, so you don't have to rush it again in the end. "There is no failure. Only feedback", Robert Allen - Brad Rose Consulting said. You may think that the times you haven't been successful are not the right time. Don't take failure as an embarrassment or weakness. Just because you are still looking for ways that work better for you. And you can do it well next time. 

Reinforce feelings after failure

It's normal to feel depressed, frustrated, and anxious when you have failure. You will also be less confident when you start doing the next things. In fact, you shouldn't stress yourself out over this. Tell yourself that failure is just an experience for you to practice and learn afterwards. You will do better next time and will not fail again. Take time to clear your mind and reframe your high spirits. Choose to do what you enjoy most to refresh yourself such as having coffee and chatting with your friends, reading a book in a quiet space with instrumental music, traveling, looking back on what made you fail and writing down some notes to figure out the problems and solutions respectively, etc.

Research and make a clear plan for success, overcome the fear of failure

The best way to overcome the fear of failure is perhaps to have a detailed plan with a clear goal in mind before implementing it. When you have a specific plan to remind yourself of what needs to be done from time to time, you will also feel more confident in what you are doing. The following time you fail with those blueprints, you can hold your head high and acknowledge efforts you put in right from the start.

Be honest with yourself if you are having trouble somewhere, cannot find a solution, then seek your professional advisors or you actively seek out experts in that field to listen to their advice. This is the way you will no longer feel the fear of failure. In other words, you will be willing to face failure whenever you have. An ancient Chinese proverb says, "Failure is the mother of success". Without failure, how do you stand a chance of realizing the things you are still lacking and need to improve? Without failure, how can you have the courage to face more challenges in the coming time. Life is a series of challenges that want you to find solutions and help you grow since then.

Hope this article will strengthen your spirit. Be confident to face failures if encountered and find optimized solutions. Follow my blog if you love the topics I'm aiming for and leave a comment on the topic you look forward to seeing in my next articles.